Curvy Girls (Big Ladies) & Thin Boyfriends: Patrick’s story

Usually, plus size ladies get harsh comments about their relationships with thin men. Most of us have received funny and demoralizing comments like (“She has a boyfriend? What is wrong with the world?” or “These two had sex?! Oh god, why”). Comments of that nature are not only offensive but also can be hurtful.

The question of size or race in this day and age should be irrelevant. The fact is two people fell in love with something deeper than an outer appearance. If anyone has a problem with it then they should keep it within themselves. And not bother people who want feel one of the greatest gifts we have in life; love. To have love, give it and receive it is a gift and a privilege that should not be dictated by looks.

Let’s read Patrick’s short story and find out how love inspires a better us.

Patrick's Story

I’m married to a quote “plus sized” woman. And, through the years I’ve seen the “looks” and “smirks” and heard the little comments made about her. Let me just say this… Shame on those people! I can’t say that I know everything entirely that she has been through but I know how people view me as a man married to a “fat girl”. For the ladies “plus sized” or “fat” is defined as “lazy, unmotivated and ultimately a failure of a lifestyle”. The men married to such women are defined as ” has little or no standards, isn’t a very high achiever and isn’t too successful, ultimately something must be wrong with these guys”. Well, this is my opinion… When it comes to finding a girlfriend or a wife far too many guys are too superficial to be different. (Or themselves) I find it strange in a culture and society that urges everyone to “be themselves, just be you and dare to be different” that so many people simply follow the majority. I’ve for a long time stood against the ideology that just because a woman isn’t up to Victorias Secret standards that they are merely average or even below par. Too many men have turned away great women with great potential because of fear of what their buddies and others will think of them. Yes, my wife is plus sized. She may turn heads for all the wrong reasons but I am not ashamed of her! If I had kept the “typical guy” attitude I wouldn’t be where I am today. Married for 8 years with kids and have had a great woman to help me through circumstances that come about. My advice to to other men is reevaluate your mindset and dare to truly be a man

What’s your story? You can share your story with us. 
Send your story to emeraldfashionblog@gmail.com

Photo credit: www.curvesillustrated.com